Have you ever been depressed? Chances are you have, but those feelings eventually passed and you moved on with your life. Now imagine what it feels like to have chronic depression and feel down more often than up.
One of the best ways to relate to another person is to understand what they experience. There is more information than ever out there about depression, but some people still do not fully grasp what it is like to live with this constant sadness. Telling someone who is depressed to simply get up and feel better will not work because it is not that easy.
If you have never experienced chronic depression and wish to better relate to someone who does, here are some things that person might be regularly experiencing.
- Grey and dreary days are less enjoyable overall; imagine always perceiving the world that way, even when those around you are enjoying the sunlight? The fact that you know others are happy while you are sad just intensifies those feelings.
- Imagine going through life with no sense of joy or fun. Things that previously brought you pleasure now mean nothing. You feel there is nothing to look forward to and no reason to get out of bed in the morning.
- You constantly feel like you have no energy. This makes even the basics of day-to-day life a struggle. On top of that, you have trouble sleeping, so it feels like an endless cycle of fatigue with no sense of relief.
- Your use of food borders on abusive. You either eat excessively to try and stave off sadness or you do not feel like eating and soon feel sick due to malnutrition.
- Ever had a nagging pain that wouldn’t go away? Depression not only causes mental anguish. It can actually leave you with physical pain that doesn’t let up.
These are just a few of the common symptoms of depression. Do you suffer from it? Don’t worry, you are not alone and there are people out there ready to help. Consult with your family doctor or local mental health association for information on therapy and how it can change your life for the better.
One of the biggest issues with Canada’s mental health system is wait times. It’s great that the help is out there, but most mental health issues require fairly fast access to treatment in order to, not only, help the person, but prevent possible tragedy.
This is especially true when such issues require police intervention. So Toronto police are now using an app that is proactive in intent. The idea is that, if someone is experiencing a mental health crisis, they can use it to quickly and easily know what services are available to them. This will hopefully prevent occurrences such as the Sammy Yatim shooting from a few years back.
Developed with the assistance of students from Ryerson University, the app (called Community Asset Portal) is currently getting about 50 uses per day. This is below the average of 70 mental health calls Toronto police typically get daily, but still a significant number, particularly as CAP has not been around for too long.
Ways to de-escalate crisis situations are commonly practiced by police officers and CAP is a way to hopefully prevent many from occurring in the first place. Ideally, developers would also like the general public to use the app for the same purpose.
Are you feeling deeply depressed, stressed, or otherwise down in the dumps? Are you just not yourself and have felt off for some time? You could be in the early stages of a mental health crisis, so it is important to take the necessary steps and have yourself evaluated by a professional therapist.
If you feel like you are in crisis and might harm yourself, either call 9-11 or the crisis line at your local mental health association. Someone will speak with you, evaluate your situation, and advise you on what steps to take next. Many of us are proactive about our physical health; we need to be just as diligent with our mental health.
The stigma around mental illness is gradually starting to lift. Many people would previously not even consider seeing a therapist or telling family, friends or their supervisor that they were struggling. However, things have improved in recent years and, as a result, many lives that would have been lost to suicide have instead been saved. More and more people see the value in being open and accept that they need help.
This change has been a more difficult one for men. Traditionally, males are taught to keep their feelings to themselves and not show signs of weakness. This resulted in many troubled men not seeking help when they desperately needed it, sometimes leading to tragedy for both themselves and those around them.
Unfortunately, men carry out 80% of the suicides in Canada, with those aged 40-60 the ones most likely to take their own lives. This demographic has a particularly difficult time adjusting to life changes, such as downturns in employment, divorce, and relationship abuse.
Anti-depressants are one way to combat depression. These can be prescribed by a family doctor, rather than a therapist. However, as Joel Wong, Ph.D., a professor of counseling psychology at Indiana University puts it, “Pills don’t teach skills.”
The ideal way to combat mental illness issues like anxiety and depression is to develop both coping skills and a new attitude towards life and its problems. Regular appointments featuring talk therapy allow clients to voice their concerns to the therapist, something they may not be able to do with a partner, family members, or friends. Also, while those individuals are more than likely anxious to help, they lack the professional skills to advocate the correct approach.
Ongoing therapy allows clients and therapists to develop a wellness plan and adjust it accordingly. Keeping that open dialogue going provides an extremely valuable lifeline to help deal with one of the life’s most difficult challenges.
University can be a very trying period in a person’s life. For many students, it is their first time living away from home. The work load is also much higher than high school, and when you combine all of these responsibilities together, it can be quite stressful. There is also the rising cost of education and the knowledge that, even if you get a degree, that is no guarantee of a job and you still must deal with student loans and other debts accumulated while in school.
Universities have some mental health supports in place for students, but these are seen as increasingly inadequate due to the number of people requesting them.
On the one hand, that growing number of students seeking supports indicates that the stigma associated with mental illness is decreasing. However, if there are an insufficient number of counselors and an especially long wait time, these people are not getting the help that they seek, making their bravery seem futile.
There is also the issue of how serious the cases can be. Typically, students only see counselors for a handful of sessions, and that is not nearly enough for problems like major depression and suicidal ideation.
As a result, some students are seeking private counseling. There are many well-qualified and beneficial therapists in this country, and their wait times are typically much faster than those funded by the government. However, there is the issue of cost. These therapists typically charge north of $100 an hour for an appointment, which is often well beyond what a typical student can afford given their other financial responsibilities.
So, what is the answer? Ideally, we need to increase access and decrease wait times for students needing this help. However, like so many things in life, it always seems to boil down to money. That is very unfortunate.
Do you ever feel down? We’re sure you do. Everyone does. You wouldn’t be normal if you felt happy and upbeat all of the time. However, like all things in life, there is a balance and if you find yourself feeling sad too often, then you might be suffering from depression.
Here are a few signs that you could be in the grips of depression and need to speak with a mental health counselor:
- Feelings of sadness or hopelessness
- No longer interested or deriving pleasure from hobbies, sex, or other activities previously of interest
- Lingering feeling of guilt
- Irritability and angry outbursts
- Insomnia or excessive sleeping
- Feeling that you are slowing down physically and mentally
- Thoughts of suicide and/or persistent thinking of death
- Lack of energy or persistent tiredness
- Weight loss or gain
- Increased or decreased appetite
- Feelings of anxiety and restlessness
- Feeling that you are worthless
- Pain coming on for no apparent reason
- Difficulty thinking or remembering
If you are experiencing one or more of these issues, it is time to take the next step. Speak to your family doctor to get their opinion. If they feel a mental health check is warranted, ask them for a recommendation of who to see.
Not every client is compatible with every mental health professional. That doesn’t necessarily mean that the person is bad at their job. However, people must feel very comfortable when talking to a therapist because personal feelings and other issues will undoubtedly come up. The only way to get effective results from a therapy session is to be honest and open. That means trusting your therapist.
If you don’t feel comfortable and the ability to be open to that person, then see someone else. Don’t worry about hurting anyone’s feelings; they are a professional and know that not every client is a good fit for them.